BEING AL~ONE~ (alone, al~ON~e, al ~O~ne)

[SiNeh~]

BEING ALONE

A Relationship With Self

The most important relationship we have in our lives is with our selves. And even though we are the only ones who are present at every moment of our lives—from birth onward—this relationship can be the most difficult one to cultivate. This may be because society places such emphasis on the importance of being in a romantic partnership, even teaching us to set aside our own needs for the needs of another. Until we know ourselves, however, we cannot possibly choose the right relationship to support our mutual growth toward our highest potential. By allowing ourselves to be comfortable with being alone, we can become the people with whom we want to have a relationship.

Perhaps at no other time in history has it been possible for people to survive, and even thrive, while living alone. We can now support ourselves financially, socially, and emotionally without needing a spouse for survival in any of these realms. With this freedom, we can pursue our own interests and create fulfilling partnerships with friends, business partners, creative cohorts, and neighbors. Once we’ve satisfied our needs and created our support system, a mate then becomes someone with whom we can share the bounty of all we’ve created and the beauty we’ve discovered within ourselves.

As we move away from tradition and fall into more natural cycles of being in the world today, we may find that there are times where being alone nourishes us and other periods in which a partnership is best for our growth. We may need to learn to create spaces to be alone within relationships. When we can shift our expectations of our relationships with ourselves and others to opportunities for discovery, we open ourselves to forge new paths and encounter uncharted territory. Being willing to know and love ourselves, and to find what truly makes us feel deeply and strongly, gives us the advantage of being able to attract and choose the right people with whom to share ourselves, whether those relationships fall into recognizable roles or not. Choosing to enjoy being alone allows us to fully explore our most important relationship—the one with our true selves.

by "C" on the Universal Lounge

[ljiljana]

... and its trus abaut ...ONE is alone too!!?? hahaha!! jes? all one? hahaha!! we are ONE...

[mavro]

.....maybe..

[Debra Rincon Lopez]

I thank you for posting this, I have been choosing my friends very wisely. Because I have lost all my old friends, because they are using drugs & alcohol. So, I cannot be friends with any of them anymore. For my own health and my own sanity and wellbeing. I cannot be pulled downward's by anyone, or I shouldn't be asked to? I feel like I have to keep my guard up now, since I have been sober for the past 2 yrs. I don't want anyone or anything to jepordize my sobriety. I have to think of myself now, not others. I cannot help anyone if I cannot help myself. I might sound selfish, but that's what I have to do? I need support all the time, because I feel bad sometimes. But, I know I am doing the right thing. I will help whenever possible, but I cannot open my home up to help more than I can, like before. I have to choose what's best for me and my boys. Because If I don't, who else will? NOBODY??? DEBRA

[maria angelica sassone]